Why keeping score keeps you stuck… October 19, 2025 Do you ever catch yourself keeping score in your relationship? Maybe it sounds like this: “I cooked dinner three times this week — the least you could do is clean the kitchen.” “I’m the one always checking in....
When ‘playing fair’ feels impossible in communication October 12, 2024 Have you ever tried to have a calm, honest conversation with your partner, but it feels like you’re talking to a brick wall? You bring something up and they shut down or walk away. You...
When you get blamed September 14, 2025 In last week’s blog, I shared about a recent fight Kim and I had because he blamed me for something — and I went completely bananas. 🤯 This week, I want to take you deeper into what really happens beneath the surface when you get...
When “letting it go” costs you connection September 7, 2025 How many times have you heard the advice: “Just let it go. Pick your battles.” At first glance, it sounds wise. Why stir up conflict over something so small? It’s not a big deal! Just let it go,...
Why It’s Important to Embrace Your Judgments August 31, 2025 No one taught us how to navigate conflict. When I was a kid, conflict in my family looked like silence, avoidance, and holding things in. My husband, Kim, grew up learning to avoid conflict too — changing...
