Your vote — fear or hope?

November 3, 2024

Fear only leads to one thing—drama. 

Our politicians are experts at using fear tactics to sway voters (yes, you, me, and everyone you know). We often vote out of fear because we’re worried about:

Tune into the last debate or watch any ad on TV and you’ll see these tactics used to put you in a threatened state of mind and suggest:

• Threats to your safety: They emphasize dangers like terrorism, crime, or immigration, suggesting their opponents will fail to protect us, leaving us vulnerable.
• Threats to your security & economic instability: They warn that their rival’s policies could result in job losses, higher taxes, or economic collapse, sparking anxiety and risking our financial security.
• Threats to your control & freedom: Health choices, shifts in immigration, LGBTQ+ rights, or gender roles are framed as threats to traditional values, tapping into the fear of losing cultural identity.

But the inconvenient truth is, whether you realize it or not, you also use fear tactics in a similar way in all of your relationships—when you are afraid. 

This is how humans attempt to feel empowered when they are actually feeling disempowered. 

So, if you are human,😉 you have, at some time or another, used fear for power, consciously or unconsciously. 

For example:

1. In your Intimate Relationship: When your need for more connection is not getting met, you might say or think, “If you don’t make more time for me, I’m going to leave!” using the threat of abandonment to persuade your partner to change their behavior, rather than addressing the underlying need for connection.
2. As a parent: When you feel helpless and out of control:  “If you don’t get your grades up, I’m taking away your phone!” using the threat of punishment to control your kids choices and behaviors. (been there done that 😩)
3. With a friend or colleague: One might say or think, “If you don’t support me on this project, I’ll never help you again,” using the threat of withdrawing support to manipulate the other person into compliance.

Each of these examples creates a fear-based dynamic that leads to resentment and disconnection and this is what it looks like to be in the Zone Of Disempowerment.

The thing is, when you drop into fear and feel helpless and out of control, your limbic brain is in charge and you might do just about anything to get your needs met.

This is totally normal human behavior and it’s important NOT to judge these choices as bad or wrong, but instead use them as your internal GPS system.

The challenge is you may ‘think’ you are not in fear when you actually are, because the mind is a powerful thing!

Here are some things you might say, do or believe when you are unconsciously in fear:

• This is overwhelming

• This is wrong! He should not have done that!

• I’m trying but….

• This is just not fair!

But when you tune into and use the wisdom of your body, you learn to discern when your mind is tricking you into believing you are not in fear. This puts you in a position to feel empowered in your life & relationships.

So, how is fear creating drama in your life?

• Are you having an issue with one of your kids, young or old?

• Are you conflicted about next steps in your career or life?

• Are you not feeling heard by your spouse or significant other?

• Are you struggling to trust in a new relationships after a betrayal

In my online course, Drop the Drama I share a simple roadmap to help you see when you are in your fear patterns so that you can begin to get the clarity you need to feel empowered and create a meaningful shift in your life and with the people that matter the most to you.

This self guided course is designed for the busy on the go woman who doesn’t have time to sit at her computer for hours on end. 

Each week in your inbox you will receive one, 15-20 minute lessons with simple tools and practices to immediately integrate into your life so you can begin to see results right away and feel more empowered today.

Learn more and register here.

When you enroll today, you are casting your vote for a drama-free holiday season!

Because let’s face it—family gatherings can sometimes feel like a battlefield of unmet expectations, unresolved tensions, and a few unwelcome passive-aggressive comments. 

But not for you this year. 

[Enroll Here] and start transforming your relationships and your life today!

in trust and gratitude,

Annmarie Chereso
Author, Speaker, Coach, & Meditation Teacher

PS: AND……..If you join Drop the Drama today, you will receive access to my BONUS Relationship Reset live holiday group coaching sessions where we dig into the course content, take questions and go deep on any and all drama that is coming up in the moment.