Politicians or Goblins? 😈

October 27, 2024

We watch our politicians use fear to create division, capture our attention and secure our vote.

And it is so easy to hop in the gossip bandwagon and point the finger at how crazy they all are. 👉🏼

But are you aware of how you might be doing that in your life and relationships? 😬

I hate to break it to you, but most of us do just that unconsciously.

I did it to my daughter a few weeks ago after she did something I did not approve of, trying to use fear to get her to change her mind. (You can read more about what happened here)

At times, as my kids evolve into adulthood and make choices I predict will not end favorably for them, I get scared and fall into the trap of trying to control or change the outcome so that they do not suffer.

In these moments, I feel so helpless because deep down I know I can’t control their choices. And when I feel desperate, I unconsciously resort to manipulation and control. (Hey, I’m only human! 🤪)

But guess what? That approach never works out well for me.

The thing is all we can create from fear is Drama…

To create something new, you need to change your relationship to your fears and that is no easy feat, because for generations we have been using fear to control one another to feel safe. (again, very human.)

But, it’s scary to change! And you can do it!

Here is the formula:

✅Awareness: You must first become aware that you’re in the fear trap—recognizing the subtle ways you control, and manipulate others in your closest relationships from fear. 😳

✅Acceptance: Next, you need to accept that this behavior is a normal human reaction and has been passed down through generations, and though it’s uncomfortable, we all do it from time to time. 🫣

✅Willingness: Then, you need to ask yourself: Am I willing to try something different? This is where it gets scary! 🫣

✅Action: Finally, it’s about practice—learning to shift from fear-based reactions to responses rooted in love, trust, and empowerment. This isn’t easy, but the more you practice, the more we can break free from old patterns and create the kind of connection we truly desire.

If you’re ready to take that first step to more freedom and empowerment, I invite you to explore Drop the Drama—where you’ll learn how to stop feeding the fear and start creating more peace and empowerment in your life and relationships.

The world, and your family, need you fully empowered! 💪🏼

Let’s do this together!

see you soon,

Annmarie Chereso
Author, Speaker, Coach, & Meditation Teacher