My husband resists this (but does it anyway)
January 25, 2026
My husband and I did our annual relationship visioning this past weekend, and once again, it reminded me why this practice matters so deeply to me.
Every year, we intentionally set aside time to get clear on what we want to create together — financially, relationally, emotionally, and practically. We talk about our priorities, how we want to feel, and the kind of partnership we want to continue building.
Truth be told, this isn’t something Kim loves doing. He resists at first. But every year, we both walk away feeling more aligned, more connected, and more grounded as a team.
There was no doubt how important this was for us..
This year, what surprised us most was how aligned we already were on so many things— even without realizing it. With full lives, separate responsibilities, and nine kids between us, it’s easy to forget that we’re actually moving in the same direction.
That realization alone felt like a gift.
After we visioned, we mapped out a plan for how we might bring that vision into real life. And that part was sobering. Our calendars fill quickly. If we don’t intentionally schedule what matters most, life fills in the gaps for us — often at the expense of our relationship.
We committed to short 2 day quarterly getaways this year, to pause, revisit our intentions, and recalibrate. Because we know that without regular check-ins, even the best intentions can fade.
I’ve been visioning for more than thirty years. When I first started, I focused on money, work, and health. My relationships were almost an afterthought.
Today, I know better.
I use a similar visioning practice for my relationships with my kids and the other people who matter most to me to stay aligned with how I want to show up and the kind of connection I want to cultivate with each of them.
If I want an abundant, meaningful life, my relationships have to be where I place my attention. Visioning helps me slow down, regain clarity, and remember who I want to be — not just what I want to do.
Because when we don’t choose intentionally, life tends to happen to us instead of feeling like something we’re consciously creating.
If you’re curious about what this practice feels like, I’ve created a short guided visualization for you. It’s designed to help you drop into the felt sense of the relationships you want to create — and to notice what becomes possible when you allow yourself to envision them clearly.
This is what we do in my annual Relationship Visioning Workshop. I’ll guide you deeper to clarify your vision to create a grounded roadmap you can return to throughout the year so that you stay connected to what matters most, even when life gets busy or messy.
in trust and gratitude,
Annmarie Chereso
Author, Speaker, Coach, & Meditation Teacher