Free Yourself From the Chains of Resentment

November 26, 2023

If you’ve been navigating the path from resentment to appreciation with me, you will remember that last week I talked about the high cost of resentment. 

I said that the medicine out of resentment involves appreciation.

The key to real transformation is to remember that the antidote to resentment involves taking full responsibility for the way you feel. 

With time, space, and perspective, I can look back on my laundry list of resentments from my messy divorce 20 years ago and find deep gratitude for all that occurred at that time, where it led me, and who I’ve become as a result. I want that for you too.

The good news is that you don’t have to wait years to free yourself from the chains of resentment which place an armor around your heart. Imagine the flow you’ll feel once that armor is released.

The pathway to letting that armor fall away is very simple, but not necessarily easy.

It begins by taking a look at your list of resentments and discerning where in your body you feel them. It may sound unpleasant, but it is a necessary part of the healing process.

In order to let go, we need to know what we are letting go of and where it lives in our bodies.

As uncomfortable as it sounds, you must honor the part of you that is resentful. You cannot just skip to gratitude–first, you have to walk the rocky road of resentment, feel it in your body, and even potentially hover over the land of hate before shifting, if that’s what it takes.

It’s a process, and honoring the process is key to truly transforming your resentment. 

I’m happy to say that on the other side of resentment is the freedom earned through true transformation. When you fully occupy your heart and learn to hold it ALL–the good, the bad, the ugly–you get access to all your energy and become the empowered being you are here to be. 

Is that even possible? Of course, it is. Your heart is big enough to hold it; all- your sadness, anger, and grief included with unconditional love ❤️ 

However, it does take some doing. And I can lead you there every step of the way.

I paid a high price for holding on to my own resentment:

• • • Hundreds of thousands of dollars in legal fees and money lost.
    • Relationship breakdowns
    • Drama drama drama
    • Time and energy drain: I lost so much time!
    • My creativity
    • Love ❤️ –all that time spent in resentment kept my heart closed from being available to love
    • My life force energy

When I was finally able to let that shit go, I could see more clearly.

My body began to soften, including layer upon layer of fascia tissue and muscle and fat, until my heart began to open again.

From an open heart, I rediscovered myself. 

I opened to infinite possibilities and saw how all the extreme discomfort was actually FOR ME.  It was a GIFT to my awakening, a gift for my liberation on so many levels. I was simply not available to see it any sooner.

Ultimately, that is okay because my heart needed time and space to heal. I had to grieve all the things my ego imagined I was losing. I had to let myself move through the process organically and honestly to truly get to the other side. 

And it was so worth it.

So take all the time you need.  There is no hurry.

I’ll be here waiting for you.

With gratitude,

Annmarie Chereso
Author, Speaker, Coach, & Meditation Teacher

PS:  If you’d like a little support moving through resentment this month I have a few openings.  Schedule a session with me today here.